Love and Fear

Love has no expectations. Fear is full of expectations. With fear we do things because we expect that we have to, and we expect that others are going to do the same. That is why fear hurts and love doesn’t hurt. We expect something and if it doesn’t happen, we feel hurt-it isn’t fair. We blame others for not fulfilling our expectations. When we love, we don’t have expectations; we do because we want to, and if other people do it or not, it’s because they want to or not and it’s nothing personal. When we don’t expect something to happen, if noting happens, it’s not important. We don’t feel hurt because whatever happens is okay. That is why something hardly hurts us when we are in love; we aren’t expectating that our lover will do something; and, we have no obligations. Does this all sound too impersonal? It is not-it is personal.